An inclination to hate

Every so often I come across something that makes me think about people and how maybe I am somewhat alone in my reactions to things. Most of the time I believe I am no different from others, but then I see something that reminds me that the majority of the people in the world do not have some of the strengths I do have. I like to think that people are capable of analyzing situations without resorting to negativity and hate, but apparently so many cannot. And this is starting to deeply trouble me tonight. 

Why do so many people feel the need to use words like ‘hate’ or call people horrible names?

Why is it that a person’s first reaction is to criticize and form such negative judgments about others?

It seems that people have a much, much easier time being able to hate someone than love them. And nobody realizes that hate gets them nowhere. It does not change things or improve anything. While it might be difficult to love, understand, and forgive, it is a much more powerful tool to make changes in society that you want to see happen. 

Some people comaplain about people, get offended, and attack them, but I wish they would realize this has zero effect in the world other than just creating more hate and hostility. If people really cared about the things that are triggering hurtful reactions, they would try to calmly think about it and see what they could really do to make a difference. Not just hate others.

It’s not that I think these people who act like this are bad people, just perhaps misguided. They obviously care very much about the issues that trigger them, and I think passion for causes is a wonderful trait to have. I just hope that we can get away from passion turning into such negative emotional responses that hurt others. We need more understanding. And contrary to what so many seem to believe, understanding and analyzing is not the same thing as defending. Understanding, just like love, is such a powerful social tool. I could probably write a post dedicated specifically to that, but I’ll leave that for another time. 

Just for some context, the event that sparked this post was seeing individuals on tumblr attacking Meghan Trainer (I believe that’s how you spell her name) over her “Anorexia” article. But really, we could generalize this to any celebrity (or any non-celebrity, even) who says/does something that generates hate. I don’t really know anything about this woman, but this again seems to be a good example of a case where people are attacking a single individual rather than realizing it is a much bigger, societal problem. And that the problem needs to be addressed in better ways.